FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING : THE BEST WAY OF LIVING LIFE

FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING

FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING OURSELVES FOR A PEACEFUL LIFE

forgiveness is a strong medicine for the hurt that has bottled up within us towards people or situation because of which we are emotionally or cognitively hobbled and our relationship suffers

nothing is as effective as forgiveness to heal deeper wounds

it definitely does not come easily to us but if we study it closely, have the right tools and are willing to take efforts then many of us can achieve it

i am trying to be one amongst them

by embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace and hope which leads you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being

any act which hurt you or offended you might always stay with you – but working on forgiveness can lessen its grip on you.

it can help free you from the control of the person who harmed you

sometimes forgiveness leads to a feeling of understanding, empathy and Compassion for the one who hurt you

it will allow you to focus on yourself and help you to go ahead and Move on in life rather than get bound with past life

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a sTORY oN FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING bETWEEN A FATHER IN LAW AND SON IN LAW

once a seeker gave 3 lakh rupees to his son in law for business

after few years, the son in law’s business went very well and was well settled in business.

but he did not return the money he had taken from his father in law

eventually they both got into bitter quarrel

the quarrel escalated to such an extent that they both stopped visiting each other completely

over the years, the relation turned into hatred and anger amongst them

the father in law who was the seeker started criticizing, humiliating and condemning his son in law and daughter in front of friends and family

since he was a seeker ( a person in search of spiritual guidance ), he couldn’t meditate nor worship and sing bhajans of god since his thoughts were of negative patterns directing towards his son in law

the effect of mental agony started to reflect on his body as well

as days and years grew, the uneasiness increased and he couldn’t find a solution

finally he went to a holy saint and narrated his story

the holy saint said, ” son, don’t worry. everything will be fine by the grace of god.

you go your son in law’s place with fruits and sweets and tell him,’ son i have made a mistake, forgive me‘ ”

hearing this, the seeker was a bit angry

he asked maharaj,” i have helped him with money and now i only should go to him and ask for forgiveness. what wrong have i done? how am i wrong? ”

the holy saint said, ” there can be no conflict in the family in which both the sides are not at fault.

even though one side’s mistake is 1 percent and the other side’s mistake is 99 per cent, but the mistake will be from both the sides”

the seeker was completely confused. he could not understand anything

the saint explained –

” your first mistake – you thought your son in law to be bad

your second mistake – you condemned, humiliated and criticized him in public

third mistake – looked at his faults with Angry eyes

fourth mistake – develop anger, hurt, hatred towards your son in law and daughter

your fifth mistake – never thinking any good about them

you have hurt your son in law with all these mistakes so all your sorrows has doubled and Returned to you.

go ask for forgiveness for all these mistakes or else you will neither live peacefully nor die in peace ”

this opened the seeker’s eyes

after prostrating the saint, he went to the son in law’s house as told by the saint with fruits and sweets.

he knocked at the door

the grandson opened the door

seeing nanaji ( maternal grandfather ) on the door, the grandson was startled and shouted loudly ,” mummy , papa , nanaji has come, nanaji has come ”

the parents came rushing to the door and stood there in shock as if they were in their dreams

for 15 years, they had not seen or spoken with each other

his daughter’s throat was choked with Emotions of joy and love and couldn’t say anything

the seeker came inside the house and placed the fruits and sweets on the table

and with folded hands he said to his son in law , ” forgive me son, for all the mistakes i have made all these years ”

as soon as the SORRY word came out from the seeker’s mouth, the love of his heart started flowing like tears

seeing this, the son in law fell at his feet, and wept for the mistakes and started Apologizing

there was a heavy exchange of emotions and tears and each one of them, his daughter , son in law and himself could only stand and apologize each other

a bottomless ocean of forgiveness and love broke out.

there was complete silence with only tears in everyone’s eyes

the son in law got up and brought the money and placed it before his father in law immediately

the seeker said. “i have not come to collect these notes, i have come to clean all these mistakes

and to make my spiritual practice alive and shed all the negative emotions i had all these years

and spread love and happiness around and bring good karmas in my life.

my arrival has been successful.

my heart is completely vanished of all the sorrows and how i feel Blessful and thankful to the holy saint who showed me the right path ”

but on the son in law’s insistence to take the money, the seeker agreed and distributed it among his daughter and grandchildren as per his wish

later everyone sat in the car and went to the seeker’s house where siblings met, grandchildren met, mother and daughter met for the first time in 15 years

there was only love and happiness in the air

after this episode, the seeker had given up all sorrow, anger, worry, stress, fear, despair towards anyone and he decided to create good present moments thus creating good karmas

he slowly realized his physical and mental illness was eradicated from the root and he had come ALIVE and HAPPY

that’s the power of FORGIVENESS

MORAL OF THE STORY ON FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING

1. forgiveness helps us know ourselves more closely, we try to evaluate ourselves through emotions

2. it helps ignite our spiritual self

3. it helps lower our anxiety levels, stress and depression

4. helps improve our sleep pattern and regulate all our health parameters

5. we learn to become a better person thus evolving ourselves from the regular pattern of thinking

KARMA PHILOSOPHY ON FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING

The power of karmas– whatever we give we Receive – good or bad

so next time when anyone hurts or does anything wrong with you, always think that these are my past bad karmas which i had Released Into this universe and now i am getting it back through the person standing before me who is hurting me right now…

so in a way my karmas are released or lessened

maybe i might have hurt or done wrong to someone in a similar manner in the past and today it has come to me through some other person

instead being angry or getting hurt or hurling abuses ,

if you can seek forgiveness from the person physically or else mentally

And bless that person with all good fortune

if in certain situation it is genuinely not your fault and you are not able to speak out

then move away from the situation and maintain Silence and mentally bless the person

you will see a change in the person hurling abuses at you

when you realize that your bad karmas are getting released in the process, forgiving becomes easier

forgiving them is about freeing ourselves from the pain that is consuming our lives

anger, resentment and hurt will be replaced with compassion and grace

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CONCLUSION ON FORGIVING AND UNBURDENING

i am no teacher or saint to preach or teach people

but by god’s grace i come upon such references from books and teachings from spiritual books which gives us a lot of wisdom and ways to live our valuable life meaningfully

and teach ourselves and the people whom we associate with – to live with the right code of conduct and to raise our standard of living

making smaller changes in life will not only help us be a better individual

but also bring a valuable change in the society in the current scenario which is very much required

however small it may be but let’s atleast start from OURSELVES

let’s make the world a better place with our small efforts in all aspects of living

so that’s all friends, hope i could bring some insight in you

until next time, keep smiling

much love .. stay happy .. stay blessed

smitha